Samstag, 22. November 2014

The Slippery Slope oder: Danke Frau Tuider!

Im Rahmen der unsäglichen Toleranzwoche der ARD stellt, unter dem Titel Animal Lovers, der Jugend(!)sender You FM, der zum Hessischen Rundfunk gehört, Sex mit Tieren als eine andere Art der Liebe vor. Im Zuge der Berichterstattung bringt der Sender auch ein Interview mit einem Sodomisten. Dieser stellt ganz offen Sex mit Tieren mit Hetero- oder Homosexualität gleich und erzählt, wie er sich in einen Hund "verliebt" hat.

Hier die YOU FM-Webseite zum Thema mit Audioclips, und mit diesem neckischen Bildchen wird geworben. Pfote in Hand die Verliebten! Selbstverständlich alles nur vom Edelsten.

Zoophilie: Eine besondere Art der Liebe?
Zoophilie ist die sexuelle und partnerschaftliche Liebe zu Tieren. Ihr denkt - geht nicht? Wir haben mit einem Zoophilen gesprochen – und er hat uns seine Geschichte erzählt.

Für den 29-jährigen Komet ist Zoophilie eine sexuelle Orientierung: wie Hetero- oder Homosexualität. Nur, dass er Tiere als Partner bevorzugt - insbesondere Hunde.

Laut der Internationalen statistischen Klassifikation der Krankheiten von 1992 gilt Komets sexuelle Neigung als Störung. Es gibt jedoch Wissenschaftler, die sagen genau das Gegenteil.

Die Wissenschaftlerin Andrea Beetz schreibt in ihrer Doktorarbeit zum Thema Zoophilie, Tierquälerei und Mensch-Tier-Beziehung, dass die Gefühle und die Wertschätzung der Zoophilen für die Tiere real sein können. Sie unterscheidet dabei zwischen Zoophilen und Zoosadisten - jene, die Tiere quälen.

Sex oder Liebe?

Zoophile sagen, Sex und Liebe spielen eine Rolle. Für die einen ist ihr Tier ein geliebter Lebenspartner, mit dem sie auch Sex haben. Für die anderen ist das Tier vor allem Sexualpartner. Wichtig ist jedoch: Gewaltfreie Zoophile sagen, dass sie mit Leuten, die Tiere quälen, nichts zu tun haben und dass sie Leute zur Anzeige bringen, wenn sie davon hören.

Toleranzgrenzen in der Gesellschaft
Ist Sex mit Tieren okay oder nicht? Es gibt viele Kritiker, die sagen: nein. Jedoch ist auch die Bereitschaft gering, sich über das Thema zu informieren.

Der Verein ZETA setzt sich für die Rechte Zoophiler ein. Für viele Zoophile ist das Internet die erste Anlaufstelle, um sich mit ihren Gefühlen auseinanderzusetzen. Am meisten haben Zoophile Angst davor, dass ihre Partner "beschlagnahmt" werden, wenn sie sich outen oder durch andere bloßgestellt werden.

Doppelmoral in der Gesellschaft
Zoophile kritisieren eine Doppelmoral in unserer Gesellschaft - weil wir Tiere essen und als Nutztiere halten, aber nicht erlauben, mit ihnen zusammen zu sein.

Komet sagt, dass Hunde wie Menschen ihre Gefühle zeigen - und, dass man die Tiere nicht zu Zärtlichkeit zwingen kann. Der Tierschutzverband PETA hält dagegen, dass die Tiere angeblich mit Leckerlis gefügig gemacht werden.

Tatsache ist: Seit 2013 drohen Zoophilen Bußgelder bis zu 25.000 Euro. Davor war gewaltfreier Sex mit Tieren seit 1969 erlaubt. Für Komet bedeutet die Kriminalisierung seiner Neigung eine Stigmatisierung.

Auch deshalb wünscht er sich, dass Menschen die Berührungsängste verlieren – und dass sie sich mit dem Thema auseinander setzen, bevor sie sich ein Urteil bilden.
Ich habe diese Entwicklung bereits vor ziemlich genau 9 Jahren in meinem englischen Blog satirisch voraussgesagt. Inzwischen hat die Wirklichkeit die Satire überholt.
Trust my favourite fishwrap "The Al Guardian" to print anything like that uncommented:
Forget monogamy and swinging. We're seriously polyamorous
A new frankness about simultaneous relationships is sweeping the US, reports Paul Harris in New York
Sunday November 13, 2005
The Observer

...Welcome to the world of the polyamorous, where the family is bigger than you might expect. Polyamorists do not limit themselves to one relationship but maintain numerous relationships, straight or gay. A key element is that they are all serious emotional commitments, not just casual sex.
[...]
Many polyamorous people, who call themselves 'polys', liken their emergence to the struggle by gays and lesbians for equal rights, 'coming out' as poly in a society prejudiced against their lifestyle. 'Most people in the poly community are very closeted. The community is where gays and lesbians were in the Sixties,' said Justen Bennett-MacCubbin, the founder of Polyamorous NYC.

Bennett-MacCubbin, who is in two serious gay relationships, says he has had to come out of the closet twice: first as a homosexual at 16 and three years later as polyamorous too. 'I realised I enjoyed being with two people in two relationships. Monogamy has no interest for me at all,' he said.

Polys face deep prejudice, he says. The most common reaction from non-polys is that polys have chosen their lifestyle to have lots of sex with different people.

Nothing could be further from the truth, he says. 'It is extremely important that people realise it is not just about sexual encounters. What distinguishes the poly community from swingers is that we want to make multiple emotional bonds. Most people in the poly community won't have casual sex,' he said.

It does result in complicated sexual and emotional patterns. Some polys are in 'triangles', where each person in a threesome has a relationship with the other. Or they can be in a 'vee', where one is involved with two others who are not involved with each other. Or polys can be in 'primary relationships', such as with a spouse or partner, and have one or more 'secondary' relationships. Through it all the sexes can be mixed, as polys can be straight, gay or bisexual.

But being a poly can be tough. Brigitte Philippides, an artist in Greenwich Village, has a primary relationship with a boyfriend, a serious relationship with a secondary girlfriend and several secondary relationships with other men.

To bored husbands or wives who might think being a poly means uncomplicated, carefree sex with multiple partners, Philippides has a stern warning. 'If you can't manage one relationship healthily, you are not going to be able to manage two. For polys, relationships are like a consuming hobby: they take up a tremendous amount of time,' she said.

Polys say that for many people, monogamy is unnatural. They point to spiralling divorce rates and widespread infidelity among monogamous couples. Polys, they say, are honest about the human condition. It is monogamists, they say, who live in a fantasy land.

'People divorce often not because of the cheating, but because of the issue of trust being broken. For polys, everything is open and it's all about honesty. All my relationships are working,' Philippides said.

Jealousy is the key emotional issue to be overcome. 'We are taught that jealousy is hardwired into us and people can then justify their jealous rages at their partner's need for others. Polys move beyond that,' said Wise.

Philippides was even more frank. 'We talk about jealousy openly. It is not a taboo word for us,' she said. In fact, polys have a term, called 'compersion'. This is the opposite of jealousy and involves taking pleasure from the success of your partner's other relationships. A hefty dose of compersion helps make polyamory work. That and a deft hand at scheduling so that no partner in a poly set-up feels unfairly treated.

'We want a change in perception of what's possible. By and large people are not naturally monogamous, and we should be able to talk about it without prejudice,' said Bennett-MacCubbin.

Certainly some polys have changed the perceptions of those nearest and dearest to them. Wise tells of her in-laws' shocked reaction when she and her husband came out as polys 11 years ago.

There were concerns for their marriage and their children. Now those concerns are gone. 'They see that our kids have grown up great and that our marriage is great, and that's all they really cared about in the end,' she said.

And the secret of success? 'Communicate, communicate, communicate,' Wise enthused. 'It is just honesty and working on being a better person. When we first started we took very slow and deliberate steps towards being poly. And you know what? The world did not implode.'
[...]
Now here are MY news:
Welcome to the world of the omniamorous, where the family is bigger than you might expect. Omniamorists do not limit themselves to one relationship but maintain numerous relationships, straight, gay or four-legged. A key element is that they are all serious emotional commitments, not just casual sex.

Many omniamorous people, who call themselves 'omnis', liken their emergence to the struggle by gays and lesbians for equal rights, 'coming out' as omni in a society prejudiced against their lifestyle. Most people in the omni community are very closeted. The community is where gays and lesbians were in the Sixties.

An expert (name known to The Editrix), who is in two serious gay relationships, one two- and the other four-legged, says he has had to come out of the closet twice: first as a homosexual at 16 and later as omniamorous too. 'I realised I enjoyed being with two people of various leg-counts in two relationships. Two-legged monogamy has no interest for me at all,' he said.

Omnis face deep prejudice, he says. The most common reaction from non-omnis is that omnis have chosen their lifestyle to have lots of sex with different critters.

Nothing could be further from the truth, he says. 'It is extremely important that people realise it is not just about sexual encounters. What distinguishes the omni community from swingers is that we want to make multiple emotional bonds. Most critters in the omni community won't have casual sex,' he said, 'not even my dog.'.

It does result in complicated sexual and emotional patterns. Some omnis are in 'triangles', where each critter in a threesome has a relationship with the other. Or they can be in a 'vee', where one is involved with two others who are not involved with each other, irrespective of the number of legs. Or omnis can be in 'primary relationships', such as with a Great Dane or other partner, and have one or more 'secondary' relationships with, say, lesbian Siamese cats. Through it all the sexes can be mixed, as omnis can be straight, gay, bisexual or into sex with our four-legged friends, who may be, in turn, straight, gay, bisexual, or all of the above.

But being an omni can be tough. XXX (name known to The Editrix), has a primary relationship with a boyfriend, a serious relationship with a secondary girlfriend and several secondary relationships with a kennel of lesbian German Dachshund bitches.

To bored husbands or wives who might think being an omni means uncomplicated, carefree sex with multiple partners, XXX has a stern warning. 'If you can't manage one relationship healthily, you are not going to be able to manage two. For omnis, relationships are like a consuming hobby: they take up a tremendous amount of time,' she said and adds: "actually, walking the dogs can be a bit tedious, but it's really worth it in the end. It's a bit of a bore that they are always hysterically yelping and hiding under cupboards and wardrobes as soon as they see me (I wonder why), but that doesn't really influence the wonderfully open and loving relationship we have. We are really deeply commited to each other, although Daisy tends to growl at Rosebud over a bone, but I am sure they will get over that sort of petty jealousy soon.'

Omnis say that for many people, monogamy and being limited to creatures with two legs is unnatural. They point to spiralling divorce rates and widespread infidelity among monogamous couples limited to sex between critters with two legs. Omnis, they say, are honest about the creature condition. It is monogamists with a fixation on two legs, they say, who live in a fantasy land.

'Critters divorce often not because of the cheating, but because of the issue of trust being broken. For omnis, everything is open and it's all about honesty. All my relationships are working,' XXX said. 'I always take titbits with me when I visit my Dachshunds, because otherwise they won't come near me. I wonder why.'

Jealousy is the key emotional issue to be overcome. 'We are taught that jealousy is hardwired into us and critters can then justify their jealous rages at their partner's need for others. Omnis move beyond that.'

'We talk about jealousy openly. It is not a taboo word for us,' she said. In fact, omnis have a term, called 'compersion'. This is the opposite of jealousy and involves taking pleasure from the success of your partner critter's other relationships. A hefty dose of compersion helps make omniamory work. That and a deft hand at scheduling so that no partner in a poly set-up feels unfairly treated. I and my two-legged gay partner always take the Dachshunds to long walks in the wood. On the lead, of course, because otherwise they will run away. I wonder why.'

'We want a change in perception of what's possible. By and large people are not naturally monogamous or fixated on two-legged persons, and we should be able to talk about it without prejudice,' said XXX.

Certainly some omnis have changed the perceptions of those nearest and dearest to them. XYZ (name known to The Editrix) tells of her in-laws' shocked reaction when she and her husband came out as omnis 11 years ago.

There were concerns for their marriage and their children and whether they might be kicked by the two Scottish Highland heifers who are partners in that loving, caring, responsible relationship. Now those concerns are gone. 'They see that our kids have grown up great and that our marriage is great, and that's all they really cared about in the end,' she said.

And the secret of success? 'Communicate, communicate, communicate,' XYZ enthused. 'It is just honesty and working on being a better critter. When we first started we took very slow and deliberate steps towards being omni. Started with straight field mice and moved on via some bi-sexual chihuahuas and two black labradors of doubtful sexual orientation to those lovely, caring, understanding, compassionate and openminded bi-sexual Scottish Highland heifers. And you know what? The world did not implode.'
Satire and reality are hardly discernable. Frightening, isn't it?
Ja, die Wirklichkeit hat inzwischen die Satire überholt. Ich habe damals schon geglaubt, dass meine Travestie einen wahren Kern hat, aber dass sie SO schnell Wirklichkeit werden würde, hätte ich DOCH nicht gedacht.

Ich bin nicht naiv. weiß schon lange, dass es Hundebordelle gibt. Ich weiß noch länger, dass es in fast jedem Gestüt, wenn die Pferde im Sommer nachts draußen bleiben, eine ältere, ruhige Stute gibt, die Verletzungen an den Geschlechtsteilen hat. Es gibt auch Männer, die in Kuhställe eindringen, das weiß ich NOCH länger. Aber um die geht es doch garnicht.

Es geht darum, dass uns sowas jetzt allen Ernstes als "Liebesbeziehung" verkauft wird. Das haben wir den Tuiders dieser Welt zu verdanken, denen es um die Auslöschung des Begriffs Liebe, um die Vertierung der menschlichen Sexualität und die Zerstörung des menschlichen Individuums geht. Und das erreicht man selbstverständlich über die Jugend am besten.